It is Well Wednesday: Signs of Patience


What is Patience?

Patience is the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.

Just reading this definition screams that it is a character trait that many of us lack. In fact, I can’t recall a single day in my own life when at least one of them didn’t make an appearance.

First, being patient is a way of treating oneself with compassion. Compassion is the act of reaching out to those who are suffering—including ourselves. I definitely suffer when I’m impatient, because lack of patience is a stress response to whatever is going on in my life. I can feel the stress in both my mind and my body. And so, cultivating patience is a way of taking care of myself, which is the essence of self-compassion.

Here are a few tips on adjusting your “patience meter” to one that truly exemplifies the definition of patience.

The Benefits of Developing Patience

Tip # 1

Take a day where you make patience your goal for the entire day

Make a concerted effort to take your time and think about everything you do, be mindful and live in the moment. At the end of the day, observe all the ways in which you’ve made smarter decisions, got along better with others and actually understood what took place. Learn to do it on a daily basis. Developing patience is much like physical exercise because it requires persistence and effort.

Tip # 2

Time is an Illusion

Time does not really exist. It is a man-made that we use to manage our days. Keeping this in mind will help you in those moments stuck in traffic or running ten minutes behind in your morning routine. The more easy going you are, the more your life will flow effortlessly notwithstanding the restricting develops of time.

Tip # 3

Slow down

If you have the tendency to rush around and try to hurry things up, want things done immediately and can’t wait for things to take their natural course, STOP. Take several deep breaths before you act or make a move.

Tip #4

Practice thinking before you speak

At times we blurt out the first thought that comes into our heads without considering the consequences. If we’re patient, pause and go over what we want to say, we can avoid hurting or offending others.

Remember, impatience can be transformed into patience. It is a worthy effort because being patient is a way of treating ourselves with compassion. It also helps us to calmly accept things as they are… and that is always a great feeling.

Until next time…